Alzheimer’s disease and dementia, which affect memory and other cognitive abilities, can create anger, anxiety, confusion and fear for a person living with the disease. It doesn’t help that explaining and reasoning with a person with dementia probably won’t ease their frustration.
An approach called “redirection,” however, frequently helps. Redirection is a technique in which you shift a distressed person’s attention away from the situation that is causing anger, anxiety, fear or dangerous or unsafe behavior to a more pleasant emotion or situation. Learn more about how to redirect a parent or senior loved one with dementia and why the technique works.
How to Redirect a Parent or Senior Loved One
It’s happening again. Even though you’ve explained many times to Mom, who has dementia, that she can’t call her sister, Elaine, who’s been dead for five years, Mom insists on calling her right now.
To make matters worse, she’s becoming agitated, even paranoid. “What have you done with Elaine? Why won’t you let me call her?” Mom asks. But what can you do to calm her?
When a person has dementia, he or she is unable to process information like they used to. That’s because dementia’s impairments aren’t restricted to memory loss. Those diseases also compromise the “executive functioning” capabilities of insight, judgment and reasoning.
As a result, your loved one with dementia can be incapable of telling the difference between a hallucination and reality – and trying to explain why that person’s perceived reality isn’t true is pointless. Such an explanation can escalate already strong emotions.
Heightened emotions in a person with Alzheimer’s or dementia typically emerge as what’s known as “behavioral expressions,” says Nancy Kriseman, author of “Meaningful Connections: Positive Ways to Be Together When a Loved One Has Dementia.” Kriseman is a geriatric clinical social worker and owner of Geriatric Consulting Services in Atlanta, Georgia.
“When your loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia acts inappropriately, becomes anxious or engages in unsafe behavior, knowing how to interact with the person to shift that behavior is a valuable tool,” says Kriseman.
7 Steps to Take to Redirect a Loved One With Dementia
It’s possible to find ways to still stay connected to your loved one with dementia so they don’t feel that you’re trying to bully or push, which can backfire, says Kriseman. Instead, try to understand that your loved one’s anxiety, fear or other emotion probably stems from frustration or feeling out of control. For example, a person with dementia may ask the same question again and again because they have trouble processing the answer, says Kriseman. Maybe someone’s frustration stems from having difficulty trying to communicate what they need.
Fortunately, redirection can sometimes alleviate frustration for both the person with dementia and their family caregiver.
Here are Kriseman’s top seven tips on how to redirect a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia:
1. Assess the environment.
Is the room too hot or cold but your loved one can’t find the words to express that? Is the space calm and comforting or noisy? Sometimes, it’s the environment itself that needs redirection.